The Point Of Silence

It has to be said that there is a point at which we reach with certain people, that is the point of Silence.  More specifically it is the point at which silence in their presence is not awkward.  Some might say that this is because you have said all that needs to be said but I would disagree as any of my close friends would argue, all that needs to be said is never fully said.   Having spoke of something before does not mean you never speak of it again.  There are several topics of conversation I fall back on with my friends time and time again and that's because our views change over time and we want to 'check in' with the other person and see if their views have changed too.

I would argue that the point of silence isn't a lack of things to say but rather that you have reached the point where you feel content in their presence, at ease.  Their presence in itself is reassuring and you share your thought with each other to the point where you know if something was bothering the other person, they would tell you.  Their silence doesn't worry you.  All the while you have such a connection you can almost hear them thinking and there are times when you know a silence is unnatural and they are thinking.

Being in someone's presence, having the constant need to keep conversation moving and flowing isn't born out of the desire to be social.  We are human beings and while conversation plays a part in this ritual, it is not the only driver.  Quite the reverse is true actually from a Psychological point of view, when in the physical presence of someone, constantly talking and avoiding any silence at any cost is a behaviour born out of insecurity.  You avoid silence because, silence is awkward; or at least that's the thought you have.

Your family, arguably should be the people you have known the longest in your life and as such over time they are sure to have grown to be aware of all your charms and quirks.  Of all the people you know your family should be the template for proving this theory of the Point Of Silence.  That is, you should feel comfortable in the presence of your family to the point where silence isn't awkward.

I have reached that point with my family.  Beyond my immediate family I have reached this point with several friends and finally there are potentials, people I would hope to reach that point with.