Definition of a Soulmate

The definition I hear most often of a soulmate is someone who you click with so much to the point where you agree on so many things.  You share the same taste in movies, in music, in art, in food etc. really they are a person you have so much in common with.  That is, the definition that is most touted but in my opinion I am not sure if that should be the actual definition.

What is described above, I would call a soul-twin.  I wouldn't call them a soulmate for a number of reasons.  First and foremost when someone shares so much with you it is inevitable that you will share much more than what you know to be good, they will often share the bad too.  A soul-twin would share your strengths and also your weaknesses, to be so similar you would both exhibit the same behaviours.  That isn't necessarily a good thing.  I have met several guys in my life who I have clicked with on that level.  One in particular which is at the heart of one of the longest chapters of my life.  I clicked with him on so many levels, we shared not only the things we choose but also the things we don't.  His childhood, where he went on holiday, his family etc the similarities at times were quite freaky, there were several moments of "oh my God me too" as we got to know each other.

The problem is, unless you are perfect - and let's face it, no-one really is - then you can never be with someone who is your perfect equal.  Some will argue with me here and that's fine, it may just be me who thinks this.  This guy above I mentioned, I would never and could never be with him, not because of anything that happened but simply for the fact that we are too similar, it could never work.  Do not get me wrong I regard him as one of my closest and dearest friends.

A soulmate, in my eyes should be seen as someone who completes you.  They should be the North to your South.  Their weaknesses should be your strengths and their strengths should be your weaknesses.  You would share some things, shared interests and above all else love one another.  The rest is superfluous.  You shouldn't aim to find someone who is your twin, like the pieces of a jigsaw opposites fit together to form a piece of a larger picture.