People are confusing

I have heard many straight guys say that women are complicated.  Equally I have heard many straight women say that guys are complicated.  I am yet to have a lesbian confirm that they find women complicated but as a gay man I can honestly say that guys are complicated.

We are all complicated when it comes to relationships.  I can honestly say as a gay man, being a man myself gives me absolutely no insight or better understanding of guys when it comes to relationships.  People are just complicated in love.

Psychology is a fascinating subject for me, and one thing that has become clearer the more I learn is that when emotions are detached and only logic is involved our every action can be predicted our every thought etc but as soon as any degree of emotion is involved the books go out the window and it is anyone's game.

Our behaviour is predictable to the point where people like Derren Brown can perform cringe-worthy magic tricks such as his knives and cups game.  A game involving several down turned paper cups on the floor under two there is a knife and under one a live mouse and under the rest, nothing.  A subject is shown, in Derren's absence which cups the knives are under and the mouse.  Then Derren, guided round the room and working only with the subject who has been told to give nothing away, he proceeds to stamp with considerable force on each cup one by one.  Without 100% certainty in the subjects behaviour there would be a very real chance of an impaled foot.  Of course there is no real danger as our behaviour is completely predictable to the point where the trick ends with 3 cups surviving each being a cup one would not want to squash.

Going back to the subject of the post, as soon as any degree of emotion becomes involved we become irrational people we do unreasonable things and ultimately become unpredictable.  All this results in you or I [many times in my case] ending up with a head spinning like a Dreidle at Hanukkah.  Unfortunately I am not immune to this observance.  I am after all human, and subject to all the same quirks as everyone.  I know from experience that I can be unpredictable when any degree of emotion is involved, all sense of logic and all manner of conscience as to what you should and should not say is discarded and I say and do things that are probably not in my best interest.  The truly frustrating thing?  Even though you know this, and you are aware that you do it, you can't help yourself.  Our hearts override our heads when any degree of emotion is concerned.  I guess the point I am trying to make is that regretting actions or words in these scenarios is a behaviour controlled by your mind, whereas the actual event was controlled by your heart.

You should never feel regret in your mind for something you said or did caught up in the moment, your mind will treat it as something it thinks it could have prevented and you can vow never to do it again but in reality when the scenario presents itself again, you will likely take the same action, regardless of the thoughts you had after the last time - up until the point where you detach your emotions from the situation and treat it as something entirely logical.  However, what is love or indeed life, without emotion?  If you feel no emotion at all, then are you not dead inside?