Gay Porn

Although this post is about gay porn, what I say here can be applied to any sexuality really.

I have never understood how people can follow porn with the same devotion as any other part of the entertainment industry.  Now maybe that's down to my perception that you generally don't sit down and watch porn like you watch a normal movie, its not such a passive act - if you watch porn you're usually quite "active" masturbating.  There's no point in being coy here let's be frank.

How anyone for example can name porn stars off the top of their head, and the titles of the movies they have been in - if we can call them that - is odd to me.  What's even more odd to me when I was a young closeted gay man porn never entered my life, it wasn't until I was an adult.  Now that's the age you're supposed to begin watching if you decide to, but let's be honest for most people that's not the case.  To see gay guys now in their late teens and early 20s who know so much about gay porn it just seems so warped.  I have nothing against porn, I admit I do watch it, but to these guys those porn stars are becoming their idols.

To base your perception of what you want to be; what you want to look like; what you want a guy to look like; perhaps most obviously as far as porn is concerned: what you want your sex life to be like; to base all of this on what you see in porn I think is incredibly warped.

Porn is incredibly unrealistic and when you start having sex and become sexually active that truth becomes self evident really fast.

In cinema in general, we watch movies with actors and actresses we come to love and follow their careers avidly.  In this realm however it is a lot more obvious to us that what we see is fiction and the ideals these movies portray are methods of escape and indulgence - the way porn should actually be seen.  You do not expect to be able to do most things you see in a regular movie.  It is even becoming more prevalent that you should not expect the places you see in movies to actually exist or if they do, certainly not to expect them to look like they do on-screen.

With all this considered, my own prevailing mindset is one that reduces porn to the status of a utility - to be used in certain circumstances of need, not something to be considered a hobby or an interest.

Now I realise this post is sounding quite judgemental.  I apologize for that, it's not what I intend.  I have no problem with porn and I have no problem with people who follow it in this manner, I certainly don't want to judge you for it.  This post is an expression of confusion.  I don't understand what motivates people to "follow" porn - but "don't" and "can't" are two different things and maybe I'll come to understand this at some point.

I guess the only thing I can really add is to me sex is something intimate, whereas porn is something I have never viewn as intimate, maybe that's the reason I don't grasp this mentality, maybe people who "follow" porn see it as something intimate.