Is it me?

Following on from my previous post, there's a point of clarity I'd like to make.  Most of the people who read this blog are people that don't know me personally.  There are however a few that do, and a few more that have a connection to me in some way.  There is a question that inevitably arises when some people read posts on here, that is whether those posts are about them.  The short answer, is probably not.  If it was about you, I would have likely discussed the topic I was writing about with you beforehand and you would know the post was inspired by that conversation.  If you think a post on here sounds a lot like you but we have never spoken, then chances are it's nothing to do with you.  Although you might want to consider the similarities and realise you're not the only one who thinks, acts, or behaves in that way if you find an affinity with content I've written.

I'm an honest person to the point where it can be brutal.  I'm direct with people and I rarely sugar coat things.  If you ask for my opinion on anything, and you know me at all, you will know the answer is going to be blunt.  This has been something that in the past has destroyed friendships for me that I had with other people.  I don't care.  I know that sounds arrogant, possibly condescending, and maybe even a little bit psychotic.  Again, I don't care.  What you think of me, is none of my business.  That's your opinion to make, and to base on whatever experience you have.  The people in my life who I am closest to, are all people who I can tell anything, without having to worry about what they think.  I can do this because the honesty in our friendships is reciprocated.  I don't ask questions I don't want an answer to of my friends because I know what to expect if I do - honesty which I might not be ready to hear, so I don't ask.

There is a fine line between kicking someone when they are down, and pulling someone down when they have their head in the clouds.  The former is sadistic and is something I'm unwilling to do, to the point where I will sometimes say to people that they don't want me to answer that question.  The latter is a grounding, something which I an many others crave in life, because it is easy to get lost in dreams and develop unrealistic expectations without realizing you are doing it.  Those few people in your life that can tell you to wake up and stop dreaming are the ones you need to hold onto most.  They are the ones who will provide the greatest support in life because they will get you to where you need to go by providing guidance and letting you know full well when they think you're chasing a dead end - you don't always have to listen, that's not the point, the point is that their advice and their experience is shared out of genuine love, not out of lip service.

In the rare instance where I do have an opinion on the behaviour of an individual in my life or connected to me, where we don't have the sort of relationship where we can actually talk about it, I don't write about it.  That's part of the reason why certain topics have never been written about here on this blog, and again part of the reason why they never will.  So if you're reading a post and wondering if it's about you, it's not.  If you are still paranoid or concerned that it may be, then ask me directly, and I will tell you myself.